Kink and BDSM Support

You’re discovering something new about you.

You’re struggling with shame and self-judgement.

You’re fed up with explaining yourself to normies.

It can be challenging to talk about the most intimate parts of ourselves and our sexual experiences, especially when those interests have been deemed taboo. You may be discovering a new side of yourself and not know where to turn without feeling embarrassed. You may be struggling to negotiate a particular kink with a partner or even make sense of why you're into it. You might be stuck under the thumb of internalized messages, cultural expectations, or sexual anxiety. These narratives carry a heavy burden of shame, confusion, or self-judgment that inhibits connection, expression, and pleasure.

Too often, kinksters are left navigating these complex landscapes without adequate support. You might find yourself tired of having to exhaustingly explain your dynamic to someone who just doesn't get it. Maybe you want to go further and deeper with your play but don't know how or who to talk to about it. Or maybe you just don't have a place to talk through your curiosities when it comes to the sensual, erotic, and sexual. The therapeutic world has not always known how to respond to kink-affirming needs, and those who seek help may find themselves educating their clinicians instead of being held by them. When working with a therapist who is knowledgeable about kink dynamics, BDSM terminology, and other aspects of alternative sexual practice, you enter into a space of acceptance and mutual understanding that is free of judgement and full of liberation.

Kink is more than just sex! It can itself be a medium through which the experiences of and relationships between identity, power, and society are explored in the bodily dimension. It can be connecting, potent, and relieving. Working through a framework of Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK), we can address the topics of boundaries, safety, and autonomy as they show up in our intimate relationships to move toward a space of positive engagement. Our work can be in seeking supportive community, increasing self-understanding, fostering healthy relationships, processing kink experiences, learning safer kink practices, and broadening our horizons.