Polyamory and ENM

You’re over being told your love is a phase or a problem.

You’re exhausted from translating your values into someone else’s language.

You’re trying to build something radical in a world that demands that you minimize your needs.

Choosing to live and love outside of monogamy can be beautiful and expansive but it ain’t always easy. You might be struggling with jealousy, navigating boundaries, recovering from rupture, or learning how to communicate your needs. These are common struggles in any relationship, but in polyamory? There’s so many more moving parts and complexities to consider. Navigating multiple relationships, balancing emotional needs, and confronting internalized beliefs about what love “should” be can be overwhelming, especially in a culture that rarely reflects back the seriousness and nuance of polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous relationships. It’s tough work to unlearn the scripts that never fit your needs and way of loving. And yet? It can be so rewarding to discover what intimacy looks like when it’s not bound by scarcity. You might be trying to show up with care and integrity, but you’re still figuring it out. It’s okay to seek support in getting there. You deserve relationships that feel aligned, nourishing, and truly authentic.

It can be hard to find support that doesn’t pathologize your relationship structure or force you into a monogamous mold. You may be feeling isolated or judged not just by society, but sometimes by therapists, friends, or even within poly community. Maybe you’re just plain old exhausted by the emotional labor of explaining it all over and over to people who have never lived it. It’s okay to want someone who already understands the framework you’re working within. Whether you’re solo poly, in a long-term triad, nesting with one partner and dating others, or still exploring what non-monogamy might look like for you, you deserve a place to talk about your relational life without shame or scrutiny. Even when in relationship, you may need a space all your own to talk things through. In working with a therapist who is affirming of and personally experienced in polyamory and other forms of ENM, you can explore the real issues you're facing without being made to feel like your identity or values are the problem. We can work together to build trust, deepen intimacy, improve communication, and understand the intersections of your relationships with your mental health, past wounds, and evolving self-concept. Let’s make space for your love to grow freely.